One of the biggest lies we might think about porn is that “if I just get into a relationship and get married and then are able to have sexual relations, then I won’t have to look at porn or masturbate anymore!” Nothing could be further from the truth! I wish someone told me about this myth before I got married. I would have tried my best to deal with this addiction much sooner in my life so I could be prepared to be a better husband to my wife. Anyways, I want you to know the truth about porn and masturbation. Being able to have sexual relations with a real human being doesn’t solve the problem we have! This porn and masturbation addiction most likely has been going on for years and years since we were young. Porn and masturbation are something we have done WHEN we want, WHERE we want. It is a selfish and self-seeking behavior and we are only focused on ourselves and these pleasurable feelings. When we get married, we have to realize that our spouse is not an object or tool to be exclusively used for our fantasy and pleasure. Our wives have needs, feelings and the choice to tell us NO! We need to understand this and realize that porn watching/sex with one self (masturbation) and sex with a real human being is not the same at all! When we watch porn we are training our brains to be aroused by material that isn’t realistic or perhaps not even normal or acceptable in a real relationship. Because of this we might experience sexual problems in our marriage such as “Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction” (PIED), premature ejaculation, performance anxiety or other serious issues that could cause much anxiety and stress in a marriage. Trust me I know! The lesson of this myth is this: Don’t wait to get help for your porn and masturbation addiction. Do it today! Become the best man or woman you can be! You don’t need to cause suffering to a spouse in the future if you can take care of this addiction now before you get married. I wish you the best in your journey of recovery and know that I’m out here joining in the fight with you. Thanks for reading, have a safe, sane and sober weekend!

-Pornfreepooldude